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08 February 2012 @ 02:34 am
Women can be really cruel to one another...  
Okay, I'm 29 years old.  I REALLY would like to think that by this time that the people in my inner circle would have matured a touch, but I think that's too much to ask for some.  If you guys are friends with me on Facebook, odds are that you may have seen this already.

Little background - I have cerebral palsy and epilepsy.  My immune system is absolute shit and because of the epilepsy, when I do get sick, I can''t take a lot of meds because they are poisonous due to my mandatory meds.  Easy enough to follow, right?  Well, you know how every year, we all get slammed with some kind of sickness that puts us in bed for a few days and we all just ask for death instead?  That's me right now.  Basically, I just don't have the vomitting and fever, just everything else.  It's totally lame, but getting better by the day.  I've been sick since last Thursday.  Can't talk, swallow, I sleep nearly all day, am weak, you know the drill.

So, I slept most of the day away, again.  I was supposed to go to the Lenny Kravitz concert tonight and was SO excited, but just couldn't get up.  That ought to tell you how bad I felt.  So I slept.  Well, then I woke up because no matter how sick you are, you can only sleep so long.  So I get on Facebook and say that I hate being sick.  This is mainly because I have a bunch of people (family, mainly my mom) asking me CONSTANTLY how I am feeling if I don't post because they all live out of town.  And plus, I can still lay down and type.  It's not a hard concept.

So, friends are giving me well wishes and telling me what I can take naturally and such.  I go to check my Facebook before bed cuz my sister lives in Germany and I always like to check in to see if she is on cuz I never get to talk to her.  What do I find?  I find a reply on my last post from a girl I have considered to be a friend, who was at our wedding, and is my husband's business partner's girlfriend.  I'm not going to copy and paste because I can guarantee you I will start crying again.  I can't look at shit like this twice cuz it just upsets me.  She basically told me that, I wasn't sick, I'm pathetic, all I ever do is complain, and sit on my ass all day and collect unemployment.  THEN, she told me that every single one of my friends thinks the same but are too chicken to tell me and that I'm a cry baby.  Then she unfriends me.

Okay, first off, I AM sick.  Second, I started looking for a job four months before I was laid off when I first found out about what was happening and (much like thousands of other people) cannot find a damn job.  It's been a year.  I do not LIKE collecting unemployment.  Even though I'm entitled to it, I'm one of those that feel I need to work for my money.  I send out resumes every day and did three interviews just last week!  I'm set up with multiple temp agencies.  It sucks out there!  And the thing about nothing but posting negative complaints, everyone complains on Facebook.  However, I am one of those that is certainly more positive than negative because the negative stuff is really personal most of the time and has no reason to be aired.  I know people who ONLY post negative stuff.  Hell, my little sister does nothing but bitch, but I don't unfriend her.  I simply avoid her negative posts and respond to the positive ones or those that may be negative but I feel I can help with, like help with her marriage or something.

The part that really hurt was the last part.  When I was younger and was diagnosed with my epilepsy, my best friend did the same thing to me.  I tried to kill myself over this because not only was I a damn lab rat living in the hospital due to to just being diagnosed, but I was being told horrible things by my best friend.  We later reconciled after high school and she apologized to me repeatedly, telling me she couldn't believe she had ever been so cruel and wished she could take it back.  Which I can understand, kids do stupid shit.  But this isn't eighth grade!

I have to say that this is one of the main reasons I don't have many female friends.  I have never had an easy time trusting women.  For the most part, I believe that if a man felt this way about me, he would TELL me.  He wouldn't go and post on my damn Facebook and then unnfriend me so I couldn't answer.  That's just not how they communicate.  At least not with me.  

So now my husband is sleeping in the other room cuz he's all upset about this.  He hates female drama shit and basically anything where people act like they're twelve years old.  Plus he gets to go to work tomorrow and tell his business partner, which will put him in a hard spot because his partner really likes me, so now I feel like an asshole even though I didn't do anything.
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lindsay aka niki1988niki1988 on February 8th, 2012 09:49 am (UTC)
Would a hug help? I've got plenty of them! *hugs you* *hugs you* *hugs you* *hugs you*

You are awesome, amazing and sweet! You have such a creative spirit and loving heart and I'm proud to have you as one of my friends. *hugs you*

If that's the way she's really going to treat you when, then she doesn't deserve to have you as a friend at all.
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 8th, 2012 09:57 am (UTC)
Thank you so much. *hugs back* It just sucks cuz I'm like, "Really? We aren't all past this by now?" A friend of mine on Facebook saw that post and replied to her with, "What, are you TWELVE?"
I feel especially bad for my husband's business partner because this is going to make him look like a jerk when he did nothing since she is his girlfriend. You know, what is he supposed to say. It's just stupid BS that never should have happened. Ah, women.
Let's also make note of the fact that this is a girl that goes out and drinks herself into unconsciousness nearly every night. We were at a strip club at my birthday (a friend owns the club, so we know all the girls and it's just hysterical) and she was there. She was with my husband's partner because I had invited both of them and was sitting on a couch across from me. I look over after about five minutes of being there and he's like, "Um, I need to get her out of here." She was COMPLETELY passed out. So I was like, okay, and saw that they got out okay. The next day I asked if she was okay and he goes, "Yeah, that's kind of a nightly thing with her..." I'm not judging her and never have, but seriously, she's one of the last people that should be pointing out shortcomings to people.
Again, thanks for the hugs! :)
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vltavskavltavska on February 8th, 2012 11:49 am (UTC)
What a bitch. I am so sorry. You do not deserve shit like that. I hope you do feel better soon. Many hugs from this side of the world. X
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 8th, 2012 12:15 pm (UTC)
Dude, your country rules. I always have to say it, lol. :)
And thank you. On both counts.
aruna7 on February 8th, 2012 12:13 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry (and angry at that bitch) that you got to deal with such shit!

*HUGS TIGHTLY*
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 8th, 2012 12:16 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I'm gradually starting to feel better, but sorry that my husband and his business partner get to deal with all this shit now. It's just not cool.
ehlwyen: cordymasqehlwyen on February 8th, 2012 01:21 pm (UTC)
She's a bitch. With personal problems bigger than any she might think you have.

*HUGS*

Seriously, it's unemployment, not welfare. That means its not your fault you aren't working and it's going to run out. It makes no sense anyone is lazy because they are on unemployment in the US.

Forget the drama llama. You rock and I hope you get better soon from the flu you're having!
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 8th, 2012 02:12 pm (UTC)
You totally made me laugh when you said, "Forget the drama, llama." That's fantastic! :)
angelus2hot: Vampire Diaries Damon/Elena kissangelus2hot on February 8th, 2012 02:10 pm (UTC)
Oh hon, I am so sorry you have to go through that on top of not feeling well. I hope you get to feeling better soon!

*hugs you tight*
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 8th, 2012 02:13 pm (UTC)
Thank you. :)
oanaspnoanaspn on February 8th, 2012 02:12 pm (UTC)
I am sorry. Women can be so evil bitches. I should know cause i just ended two friendships who meant a lot to me but not enough for them it seems...That's why i only have one best women friend whom i can trust completely. I came to the conclusion that it isn't worth it to have women friends. Hope you'll feel better soon, hugs
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 9th, 2012 05:14 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I'm already starting to feel better. I've been talking to other people around me and they are just as flabbergasted about this as I am.
Lisa: Castiel bloodfailegaidin on February 8th, 2012 02:48 pm (UTC)
WHO DOES THAT?!?!?! I hate when people think they're entitled to tell you shit about your life when a) they don't have a leg to stand on and b) they're full of crap. And who the hell does it on Facebook, anyway??!?! I love the internet, I really do, but sometimes I really think that it only serves as a way for people to be nasty bitches without actually having to deal with a confrontation. She would never have the guts to say that to you face-to-face.

::hugs:: You deserve better than that, hun.
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 9th, 2012 05:16 pm (UTC)
I know, right? I've told this story to a few people and suddenly they'll go, "Wait, she just posted this on your Facebook??? WHAT???" And this is a chick that I like, randomly see at parties. The last two times I have seen her have been two weeks ago for my birthday and then the last Halloween, so it's like, "We don't even know each other. What are you talking about???"
Heather: OTH - Baleyamericangrl69 on February 8th, 2012 04:57 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry. People really suck sometimes. But if she really feels that way you're better off without her. You're so right though. Girls are nasty and you can never really tell with them but with guys what you see is what you get. But I'm sorry she did that to you. *big hugs*
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 9th, 2012 05:17 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much. One good thing that came out of it was that I found out who my real friends are because they all came out of the woodwork REAL quick to defend me, lol. :)
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Annie: Jacob facepalmanniehunnam85 on February 8th, 2012 10:32 pm (UTC)
Tracy, I'm am so sorry that you are going through all this - what with being sick and out of work and then this BS on top of it. I really hope things get better for you soon. *hugs*
This woman sounds like a real piece of work (and a lot like my aunt, who has also been acting stupid and childish over the last year or so). I don't have a Facebook account anymore, but if I did, I would tell her where to go and what to do with herself when she got there.
Do NOT beat yourself up over this. All the blame lies on HER shoulders, not yours.
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 9th, 2012 05:18 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much. I am certainly feeling better about all of this today. Yesterday was really tough, but then a lot of people supported me, so I felt a lot better.
Kristin: what are youmidnight_owl13 on February 9th, 2012 03:21 am (UTC)
I feel the same way you do about females, its said that when we get older people can't have more compassion and understanding. I know I don't know you very well, but I always on aim to talk
Kristin: elena many facesmidnight_owl13 on February 9th, 2012 03:21 am (UTC)
it's sad
(no subject) - ladymanson on February 9th, 2012 05:20 pm (UTC) (Expand)
spikesredqueen: billow - hugsspikesredqueen on February 9th, 2012 07:19 am (UTC)
*hugs you* I hope you feel better soon and though we do not know each other that well, I think you are a really sweet person! You really don't deserve that crap!
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 9th, 2012 05:21 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much. I am feeling much better today because a lot of my true friends really came out in my defense last night, and if not in my defense (because they didn't want to start wars with her), just to help and support me.
Marshamellow Bluefireofthedark on February 9th, 2012 07:20 am (UTC)
Wow that really sucks!!!
that was so rude of that person to do friends are suppose to be nice and encourage you to get better not be mean, i really hope you get better, being sick sucks, i have a friend that i went to collage with she has epilepsy and if someone was being mean to her and i saw all the hurtful things they were saying i would so go off on that person i know that's probably a childish thing to do but i like to stand up for my friends, i hope things do get better for you.
Lady Mansonladymanson on February 9th, 2012 05:23 pm (UTC)
Re: Wow that really sucks!!!
Thank you very much. And no, it's not childish, you're sticking up for your friend. People need that from time to time and people need to be put in their place as well so they don't think they can get away with it because they will continue to do it to others. I'm certainly feeling better today, as last night a lot of my true friends really showed their true colors and supported me. :)
Re: Wow that really sucks!!! - fireofthedark on February 9th, 2012 06:46 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Re: Wow that really sucks!!! - fireofthedark on March 14th, 2012 03:19 am (UTC) (Expand)