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25 October 2009 @ 12:31 am
Some men make all the others look REALLY bad...  
 Some people are serious pricks.

I have to get this off my chest cuz I am just angry now and writing helps me vent.  We went to meet my husband's sister and her husband at this little bar tonight since there was going to be a costume contest.  My costume this year is one of those sexy devil costumes.  So the dress is like, really short and I wear fishnets, boots, and horns.  The tail is attached in two places to the back of the dress.  Well, I also have another piece to the costume which is my long red trenchcoat for when it's cold.  I figure that since we are going to be in this dumpy little bar all night, I'll just keep the coat on so I don't have to deal with people grabbing at me all night.  

So we are all standing there having a good time and talking when this old guy behind me goes and lifts up not only my coat, but then my dress!  I turn around all mortified and there he is just STARING at my ass and I knock his hands out of way and cover myself up.  Well, in the process, he managed to break one end of my tail, so it just hangs down now instead of curling up.  And it's very long so if it hangs, I can't walk around with it like that.

I get angry about this and tell my husband, who does nothing.  Now bear in mind, I don't like, expect my husband to go over and start shit with the guy.  He's not a big guy and doesn't like confronting people, but he doesn't say anything to him or to even me.  And here I sit feeling like just a slut because I have this cute costume on so I must have just attracted it and it's my fault so I just left the bar.  So I'm up at twenty to one, upset about this.  My costume is broken, my husband is sleeping and pissed that we had to leave so soon, and I feel like a total skank.

Other than that though, good evening! :(  I waited all night for my husband to come home from his hockey game too and it was just going to be fun for us to go out.  I wish we would have just stayed home.  Then we could have watched the rest of "Antichrist".  Has anyone seen that yet?  The Willem Dafoe film?  We got a screener copy of it last night, but unfortunately only got the first half.  It's good, but I have to warn anyone that it is graphic, both sexually and violently.  And when I say graphic, I mean in the most graphic way possible.  I do enjoy Lars von Trier films though and it is certainly one of his.  Oh and it is just magnificantly depressing, so be prepared.  Seriously, my husband wanted to watch it last night and I told him, "Now, are you sure?  Cuz I don't want to hear any bitching about it once this gets started."  But I would recommend it.  Oh, look, I'm feeling better already... 
I feel: enragedenraged
I'm listening to: LA Woman by The Doors
vltavska: Killowvltavska on October 25th, 2009 05:09 am (UTC)
Okay, that is f**ked beyond belief and no way in hell you should you be feeling like a skank because, hello, no, someone basically molested you and that is nothing to do with you and nothing to do with your costume, it's to do with the fact that whoever did that to you has major problems and you were in the wrong place at the wrong time. *hugs*
Lady Manson: Buffy - willow/taraladymanson on October 26th, 2009 12:02 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much. *hugs back*
Lisafailegaidin on October 25th, 2009 09:16 am (UTC)
::hugs:: You didn't deserve any of that, hun. People are supposed to know to keep their hands to themselves. And I'm sorry that your husband didn't even say anything to you. That's not right either.
Lady Manson: Buffy - willow computer geekladymanson on October 26th, 2009 12:03 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I did get to talk to my husband last night, so all is well there too.
Live like you mean it and love til you feel it: Dean Sam Castiel - OT3rei17 on October 25th, 2009 09:59 am (UTC)
This is really fucked up.
Some idiot behaves like a brainless dick and you got to feel guilty about it? No way!
Who in their right mind just touches people, he doesn't even know - no matter what they wear? Sucks.
Lady Manson: spn - crd sandyladymanson on October 26th, 2009 12:03 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I know - some people are just idiots.
Kerri: evil!samkaczurda on October 25th, 2009 12:08 pm (UTC)
Ew!! What a perv!! Don't feel guilty at all, you just went out to look cute and some dirtbag guy has to make it all slutty! It's not your fault and you are not a whore. I'm sorry your costume broke though :/ Is there any way of fixing it?
Lady Manson: spn - why samladymanson on October 26th, 2009 12:04 pm (UTC)
Thank you. And yes, my husband was able to fix my costume, so I do feel better about that. :)
turquoisetumult: [PD] Emerson: What the Hell's Wrong withturquoisetumult on October 25th, 2009 12:40 pm (UTC)
You shouldn't feel like a "skank" or "slut" because of what happened. You were just dressing up for Halloween! And hell, you were even wearing a coat to cover yourself up a bit. People like that icky old man unfortunately exist and you can't let them get to you like that. Maybe your husband didn't say anything to you because he didn't realize how upset it made you feel? Maybe he just thought you were angry because the tail was destroyed?

Feel better, Tracy. Try not to let it get to you too much!
Lady Manson: Buffy - faith fighterladymanson on October 26th, 2009 12:05 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much. I talked to my husband last night and a lot of it had to deal with him not wanting to make things worse by possibly embarrassing me all the more. So I understand that. :)
(no subject) - eglvm on October 25th, 2009 02:32 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Lady Manson: Buffy - buffy ewladymanson on October 26th, 2009 12:10 pm (UTC)
I talked to my husband and he told me a lot of it had to do with not wanting to embarass me all the more. He was pretty pissed off by the time I got to talking to him about it.

The movie is really good, although people are really one way or the other way on it. I've seen people either love it or hate it. :) I wasn't going to see it at first because I can't deal with Willem Dafoe. Not because of his acting, quite the contrary actually. I saw him in Auto Focus and his character really freaked me out, so I couldn't watch him in anything afterwards. I have to imagine that would be more of a compliment as an actor if you did so good a job that it did that to someone. But I had to see this and he and the woman in the movie are excellent in it as far as the acting. If you see it, let me know what you think. :)
(no subject) - eglvm on October 26th, 2009 04:33 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Lady Manson: spn - dean sandwichladymanson on October 26th, 2009 05:29 pm (UTC)
In Auto Focus he plays the part of a guy who is obsessed with another man and the thing that made it so creepy is that his character is based on a real person, who basically got away with murder. There's so much sexual tension in it that every time I saw Willem Dafoe, I had really weird sex dreams about him. No good. My husband finds this hysterical and when we saw Spiderman 3, there was this painted portrait of him in the movie. My husband was like,"You're going to wake up one morning and that is going to on the wall." LOL. :)

As far as Antichrist, I'd be happy to send you a copy once i get the second half of it, if you like. Just let me know; I forget what format it is in right now.
(no subject) - eglvm on October 26th, 2009 08:22 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Lady Manson: spn - Ruby NINladymanson on October 26th, 2009 08:38 pm (UTC)
I'm in MN, so I don't think the format is too different. I'll see what I can do. :)
Erin Nicole: danajerkbitcherin_nikki on October 26th, 2009 03:47 am (UTC)
You seriously have nothing to feel guilty about, or to feel like a "slut", etc. You did absolutely nothing wrong, and have every single right to be pissed off. You were violated, and your man (no offense) didn't do anything about it...even taken into account to notice how upset you are. Sometimes guys just don't understand. Personally, if someone came up behind me and did that I would have turned around swinging. *huggles tight*

I actually saw the movie last night, and didn't really care for it. My fiance brought it to me saying it would be scary, and I was not scared once. I was more confused and bored to tell you the truth. The beginning with the kid tho, sooo effin heartbreaking! Made me want to cry.
Lady Manson: spn - drunk jessladymanson on October 26th, 2009 10:02 am (UTC)
Thanks for your comment. :) I talked to my husband yesterday and everything went very well. He was hiding a lot of anger about it inside. Talking to him made me feel a lot better and we're okay, which is the important part.

As far as the movie, I have found it is really one where you either really enjoy it or not. I have found most of Lar von Trier's films to be that way. And I certainly wouldn't consider it a horror movie or scary. I would have loved to have seen it in the theater. We have four theaters that show independent and foreign films here, but they haven't shown it yet.
ehlwyen: boys bad luckehlwyen on October 26th, 2009 02:37 pm (UTC)
*hugs* Glad this has pretty much blown over with you and your husband. So irritated to hear it happened in the first place.

I just wanted to say that it wasn't anything you did or what you wore. The guy was drunk and a perv and would have probably grabbed your ass or elsewhere even if you had jeans and a t-shirt on.

And my husband usually acts the same way when I've been offended. He's usually boiling mad at what happened but smart enough to know it's best to keep a low profile to keep himself out of trouble and hope that it's over. Because if it happens again, then it's probably going to a full blown confrontation since the other person has serious issues to keep doing it. So he gets really quiet. And I usually worry that he's mad at me. Until we leave the place or much later when he's calm.

Anyway, I wanted to give you some sympathy! *hugs*

And if we're talking about scary/horror films. I totally want to recommend Paranormal Activity. I thought it was overhyped, but saw it this weekend and it was very good! :D
Lady Manson: spn - demons arent we allladymanson on October 26th, 2009 04:13 pm (UTC)
Oh, I'm glad to hear of other people with husbands who keep it all inside for the better of the situation. :)

I've seen Paranormal Activity three times already. We were lucky enough to be one of the first cities to have it and I went to a midnight showing of it. Then I kept bringing people to it just to gauge a reaction. Part of the fun of that movie is the audience, in my opinion. I still haven't watched the theatrical ending; the sound of it scares me too much, lol.