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01 December 2009 @ 06:30 pm
Writers PLEASE HELP ME!!!!  
My husband laughed his ass off when I told him this, which I didn't particularly appreciate, but it was in its own self somewhat funny. And now I will be continuously tormented until I show him that I can write this freaking scene!

Here's the deal. I CANNOT write sex scenes. And by that, I mean normal sex scenes. What constitutes as normal? I'll put it this way. I have been able to write rape scenes and vampire sex scenes and that's it. But regular human sex, whether it's straight, gay, loving, hardcore, WHATEVER THE SITUATION MAY BE, I can't do it. Seriously, the scenes actually write themselves in my head, but I can't get them down on paper, or in this case, Word. So I have these awesome scenes in my head that won't go away, which leads to some seriously fucked up dreams and needs for sex. This is why my husband found this SO funny.

I'm guessing I'm not the only writer who has had this issue because we all have to make that leap from writing PG13 to NC17 material at one point. And I'm sick of dancing around this scene because I have written a ton of the stuff around it. And it can't be a light scene either - the whole thing is really dramatic and insane in nature. I would love to get over this so that I can write them in the future as well with no problem.

Right now I am sitting around feeling like if people are able to read the crazy stuff in my mind, they're going to think bad things of me, but my husband said that I'm just telling a story. They're characters, they're not me. Hell, if they were me, I'd be a doped up rock star chasing ghosts. Who apparently isn't getting laid right now because I won't write it in for her!

I just need some words of encouragment or advice. I know there are a lot of people who write out there no matter what it is. Please bear in mind that this is my own personal fiction, not fanfiction, otherwise I would be more than happy to share to show you what I am dealing with.

Anyone who answers this, I love you already. This is really bugging me!
I feel: anxiousanxious
I'm listening to: Sweetfaithy's Belice fanmix
zana: readingoctoberland on December 1st, 2009 09:49 pm (UTC)
Hi there,

I'm sure you have no idea who I am so I hope you don't mind me responding to this. I started reading you after I saw some graphics you posted.

Anyway, I work as an editor for a company that publishes erotica and I also write erotica. I'm not sure if I have any advice that will be particularly useful as I've never had this problem. But one thought did pop into my head. Perhaps for practice you can revisit some of your vamp sex fic and try to re-write it as human sex fic. I often find that writers (myself included) tend to over think things. Try not to do that. Just let it flow as best you can and see what comes out. And I know you said you don't want to share what you are writing but it is often good to have another pair of eyes look at something.

The other bit of advice I have is something I think you've already covered. Even in 'plain' old erotica/sex scenes something needs to be at stake whether it's something emotional and/or physical. Otherwise what's the point? Then it just becomes porn. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with porn but it sounds like you are writing something that is intended to be more than that.

I hope some of that helps. Either way I wish you luck.
Lady Manson: Buffy - fred bookladymanson on December 1st, 2009 09:57 pm (UTC)
Even in 'plain' old erotica/sex scenes something needs to be at stake whether it's something emotional and/or physical
Exactly! That's another reason why it's kind of tough for me to write because I want to make sure that gets across as well.

Thanks for the advice. From an editor, I have to say, that's pretty cool. I really appreciate it.
- Inspiration, Like a Heartbeat, Is But a Whisperbl_graphics on December 2nd, 2009 12:13 am (UTC)
First, stop caring wht people think. I think that's something that destroys a scene or a story even before you write it. Just whatever is in your head, go with it. Get it down. It can be gross and gritty just so long as you put it in Word. From there you can edit it to a be a bit cleaner and hone the edginess to what suits the story. And seriously, no one will think bad of you if it's..well, whatever it is. It's a story. It's about the characters and not about the writer. I don't think I've ever read anything and gone OMG I can't believe this writer! They're so nasty! LOL The characters maybe, the writer, never. :)

Anyway, I hope that helps.
Lady Manson: true blood - eric animatedladymanson on December 2nd, 2009 12:38 am (UTC)
That helps more than you know. Thank you! :)
- Inspiration, Like a Heartbeat, Is But a Whisperbl_graphics on December 2nd, 2009 04:21 am (UTC)
Glad to hear that it helped and that the writing goes a bit easier now! :) *hugs*
ehlwyen: ml_desireehlwyen on December 2nd, 2009 06:03 pm (UTC)
ROFL!!! *hugs* I'm sorry I have to laugh because I know EXACTLY how you feel. And laughing is a great way to shake off your own nervousness. You have the courage to write all these other scenes, writing a sex scene shouldn't be all that more exposing of yourself. You are writing to tell a story, not describe your own life. And I definitely want to back up what octoberland said about something needs to be at stake. For me, the best sex scenes capture motivations and fears, not just basic lust.

I'm in your corner, cheering you on! And I'll leave you with a final thought...To err on the side of adventurous is better than writing something boring and methodical. XD
Princess Robot Bubblegum!astrothsknot on December 2nd, 2009 09:45 pm (UTC)
you could write an encounter with your husband, retell a real occasion just to get the practice of writing a sex scene. No one else is going to see it or write out a fantsy with a celeb, again no one's going to see it and see how it reads back.
Bre: Shaun of the Dead Thanks Babebre2004 on December 4th, 2009 12:35 am (UTC)
You know what I say to myself? There's always someone out there that will love what you create. Thus, stop thinking about what you're writing and comparing yourself to what could be real, or what is real or what you've read and what could be accepted. Fuck that shit! *lol* Just write that sexy stuff down. Sometimes it helps if you take what you did the night before and write that down to get started and then somehow it turns into something completely different. But break a leg, sweets! I know how difficult it is, especially when it's an important part of the story.