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22 January 2010 @ 10:46 am
Updates since my last 'life' post and big thank yous!  
I wanted to give an update and a thank you to those of you that commented on my last real major life post...

My Beetle is now sitting in my garage at home. After being told that we had to have the transmission rebuilt for $6K, we couldn't do it. And by that, I mean we just didn't have the money. All we could do was get the thing towed home. So my husband went to the dealer and went to get some stuff out of the car before calling the tow. Well, he started the engine and guess what? IT STARTED. Not only that, but he was able to drive it around the block four or five times with no problems. It didn't idle, stop, all the lights that had been on before weren't flashing, and more.

So we took it up to a transmission mechanic that one of our friends knows personally. He took a look at it and said that it did not need to be repaired - it only needed a new valve. Granted, the valve costs $2K, but that is considerably easier to come by than $6K. He didn't understand why the dealer would flat out lie to us like that, nor did he understand why they were not helping us in regards to the warranty. So he suggested we contact the VW PR department and wait to get it fixed to see what they think about it.

We contacted the PR department. Yeah, they were NOT pleased with the way the dealership is tarnishing VW's name. PR people do not care for that stuff, if you know anyone in that line of work. So I am currently dealing with them. It's kind of a long process, but it's much more positive than the dealer. In the meantime, I am leaving the Beetle alone. It has been able to drive in and out of the city twice, which is about five miles one way from my house, but I still don't want to chance it stopping on me again. Especially in this weather. Moral of this story: always get a second opinion!

My house is still driving me nuts, but it has been since June (that was when we started the refinance), so I guess I'm just getting used to that now, lol. Good lord, if you want to refinance, just hope that you're not married to a business owner. The US government now needs literally EVERY scrap of paper they have run through the business. I can't say I blame them. It's the lack of research that didn't really help this whole recession. I'm wondering if we're going to have another Roaring 20's this century. That would be nice. Of course, a Roaring Teens would be fantastic as well. The sooner, the better.

My stepson turned 18. He got kicked out of school. Yeah, that's awesome. He has a lot of problems. From the outside, he looks like just a brat, but when you know someone who has a lot of problems, you know if they are a good person with problems or just a bad person. He's a good person, he just has all these damn issues. His mom's side of the family has a lot of mental issues like depression and such and then both sides have the real addictive personalities. Well, he refuses to take any anti-depressants that his doctor has prescribed because he doesn't want to be dependant on drugs. Yet, that doesn't stop him from smoking pot all the time. I understand this because when I was 14 I was on 16 pills a day for my epilepsy because it was when I first was diagnosed with it. It wrecked my body for a year. When I was 15, I tried to kill myself because I didn't want to live like an invalid forever. That obviously failed. Finally, I realized that if I did not take the stuff, I would end up dead because without them (and I've tried this before), I have multiple grand mal seizures a day.

As of today, I take 12 pills on a good day for my epilepsy and depression. In case you're wondering, I was born with cerebral palsy, which is sort of the root of all this crap. I'm 27 next week and I have learned to live with taking all this stuff. But people who haven't had to do that don't understand why one wouldn't want to take pills everyday. It can bring you down from time to time.

I just worry about him. For anyone that has a form of depression, you probably remember what it was like before you took any kind of pills or treatment. It was hell. You felt like you were a loser all the time, or at least I did. That's how he feels. And no matter what we do, we cannot convince him that it will go away , or at least diminish slightly, once he finds the right treatment. But again, I've been down that road.

Onto some other news - a good friend of mine is a model. Not like a supermodel or anything (that would be badass), but she does catalog stuff and has me do a lot of touch ups for her. She's in my LJ a few entries back. See here, here, and here. Anyway, she has tried to get me to do a photoshoot FOREVER. Everyone always tells me how photogenic I am, but I just don't see it, although there are a couple nice photos of me out there. Anyway, we were out boozing it up at my husband's work party the other night cuz she works for him and she finally talked me into it because one of her photographers needs someone who will do nudes. Personally, I have no issue with nudity. I could care less and I have seen this guy's photos. They would be really nice. So she goes and sets this all up for me and we get all excited about it. Well then he calls and cancels, saying he can't do a shoot for free, even though I'm a friend of hers. And not free is $299 an hour. Um, have you ever heard of building your portfolio? It's not like I'm charging! He hasn't seen a photo of me, so maybe he's just worried that I'm hideous...

I've been writing like a damn fiend these past few days. I'm up to 49,000 words. SO AWESOME! I'm really excited about this because it's my first adult based novel (and I have to give kudos to octoberland, bl_graphics, ehlwyen, astrothsknot, and bre2004 for help with getting my foot in the sex scene door!) and so far, people that I thought wouldn't like it at all (my mom and sister) and people who never read any of my writing (my sister and my husband) all really enjoy it. And my sister would tell me if it was shit. She would. Right to my face. Granted, they are my family, but some of those are just NOT readers, let alone stuff that isn't actually published. So having some reading and constructive criticism before submitting it to an agent is always helpful. I wish I could put it online, but if anyone ever stole any of it, you would actually see a girl come through your monitor. NO JOKE. Also, for those of you who left me links for mental illness and mental breakdowns - BIG THANK YOU! That's a huge theme of the novel. It's in the last third of the novel, as far as the outline I have goes anyhow, and everything is starting to fall apart for the character. It's the part I have been waiting to write.

So happy Friday to all. I think that's enough for now. Living in MN, all I am hearing about is the effing NFC game on Sunday. Yeah...I'm a Packer fan married to a Viking fan. It's Viking day at work today. Funny how we have never had one before, oh yeah, that's cuz the Vikings suck without the Packers former QB! I'm just kidding, I'm not one of those psychos who gets so far into sports that it runs my life. It's all in good fun.

Oh, btw, I now have two new obsessions, in case you care. Jackson Rathbone. GOOD GOD. I saw Dread and all I could do was stare at his eyes in certain scenes. Beautiful man. And my newest pairing is Bella/Alice. Why are all my pairings so uncannon and not that popular????

I feel: productiveproductive
I'm listening to: The Funeral by Band of Horses
Kerri: Castiel - the endkaczurda on January 22nd, 2010 09:02 pm (UTC)
Wow, that is such BS what the dealership said to you! At least what you need repaired is cheaper and hopefully PR will sort something out. I guess car dealerships are so desperate for money these days they are willing to lie to customers. >|

I'm really sorry about your step-son. :/ Poor kid, reading your entries about his mother sure makes his situation a lot more understandable. I hope he can learn that taking pills and getting help does not make you a loser, in fact it does the opposite. It shows that he is willing to get help which means he is a lot stronger than some people.

Unf, Jackson Rathbone. <3 :P
Lady Manson: misc - smg cute orangeladymanson on January 23rd, 2010 06:06 am (UTC)
Thank you! It's nice to hear someone else has the same feelings as me. On all the subjects...
Bre: Impala Ride or Diebre2004 on January 23rd, 2010 12:43 am (UTC)
OMG! I can't believe the dealership was so full of crap, and that they tried to play you like that! What a load of shit. But awesome that you got the second opinion and that you know you don't need to pay nearly as much money. And woot for PR people! hahaha At least that dealership won't get away with it too much... :P

How exciting about the writing!! Yay!

I'm sorry about your stepson. I can understand to a degree, my brother went through something quite similar and I've dealt with addiction issues myself and pretty much fear anything that I like, lol. It's easy to laugh when it's yourself. 'Aw, it's not THAT bad...' Pfft. But I hope he makes it through all of this, family support definitely helps and it's good that he recognizes the issue instead of ignorning it.

It's good to see things are looking up a little! A little sunshine and roses... :P
Lady Manson: spn - hello belaladymanson on January 23rd, 2010 06:08 am (UTC)
Thanks! :) Yes, the looking up is certainly a nice things.
Princess Robot Bubblegum!: weapons drawn connor/beckerastrothsknot on January 23rd, 2010 01:31 am (UTC)
Have you thought about a writer's circle or a trusted beta to get a second opinion before you submit it? Family are great for making sure you're keeping it consistent, but to nitpick before an agent sees it, might be an idea to get someone who's more specialised in.

You're right not to put it online. You're clearly hoping to sell the fruits of your labours and make some money off it, so the only time it should go online is when it's an ebook on Amazon for $3.
Lady Manson: Buffy - fred bookladymanson on January 23rd, 2010 06:10 am (UTC)
Trusted beta is kind of my step two. Well, maybe step three. The first is getting the thing finished, then read it over a few times and have the family do it for easy edits. I certainly need a completely neutral beta. I just need to figure out where to find one.
- Inspiration, Like a Heartbeat, Is But a Whisper: pic#95786650bl_graphics on January 23rd, 2010 01:33 am (UTC)
Hey hun! Glad to see that things have turned around a bit for you hun!!

I can't believe that the dealership would treat you like that, but I can't say that I'm all that surprised by it. I'm glad to hear that you are fighting them though!! Seriously, they shouldn't flat out lie like that. It makes the corporation look horrible and I hope that the PR person can help you get it sorted.

Kudos on your novel! I'm just glad that I could be of service! And I know what you mean. I would love to put up some of the novel that I'm currently working on to get some outside opinions, but I am terrified of someone taking it! With all the work that I've put into it, ugh, I just don't really want to risk it either. Let me know how the whole trying to find an agent goes! Hopefully in the very near future that will be a problem that I'll be dealing with as well *crosses fingers* So good luck there!!

Anyway, all my best! I hope everything settles down for you!! *hugs*
Lady Manson: true blood - eric animatedladymanson on January 23rd, 2010 06:12 am (UTC)
Thanks so much! I'll keep you updated on the agent thing - God knows if I get someone professional to read the thing, I'll be jumping all over the place and broadcasting it all over online. :)
- Inspiration, Like a Heartbeat, Is But a Whisperbl_graphics on January 23rd, 2010 09:22 am (UTC)
I hear that! I'd be bouncing for about a month if I can find an agent. Then again, right now I just need to focus on finishing the stupid thing and then doing some editing, then I can worry about getting it published. LOL

Anywho, if you need another test monkey in the mean time let me know. :D