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15 June 2009 @ 10:49 am
Please read this...  

Over the weekend, I went to go see Dane Cook. I'm not a huge fan or anything, but I enjoyed it. He clearly has a ton of fans because the show was crazy. During the show, he mentioned losing both of his parents within nine months of each other due to cancer and how sad it was. It led up to some more jokes, so the whole thing was really good.

At the end of the show, he came out for an encore and thanked everyone for being so nice when he mentioned his parents. He then proceeded to tell us about the very first time he looked up his name on the Internet. He was unaware of how hateful people online can be until he looked on there and found actual site based on how bad of a comedian he was and all this crap. Well, here's the kicker. He gets an email from someone after his parents died. He had the print out of the email and read it to us.  The email, entitled, Please read this, opened with, "Dane - your parents died of cancer to get away from your shitty comedy." He then told us that the insult stuck with him for two years, making him feel really bad. I mean, how awful is that? As much as you don't like a person, you don't go and say something that horrible to them. Two years passed and he recieved a follow up email from the same person. It stated the following, "Dane - when I wrote you the past email, I was drinking, unemployed, and doing nothing with my life. I now understand your situation as I am living with a father who is dying of a brain tumor. I apologize." To which Dane Cook responded, "Your father is dying of a brain tumor to get away from his drinking, unemployed, loser of a son."

This made me think a lot about the wank over different actors and actresses that I have listened to over the past year. Next time you feel like ripping on someone in the media, really think about it and how it affects their life. Imagine how you would feel if you were to read something so negative (or in the above case, so hateful) about yourself. I honestly don't blame him for answering the way he did.

I feel: moodymoody
I'm listening to: Fleetwood Mac
turquoisetumult: [PD] Emerson: What the Hell's Wrong withturquoisetumult on June 15th, 2009 03:58 pm (UTC)
I enjoy a lot of Dane Cook's comedy (though I'm not really hard-core). But regardless if I loved or hated him, it is so INSANE to write an email to him, discussing his parents' deaths like that. That's completely uncalled for and ridiculous, my God.

And that last paragraph you wrote ... Well-said, Tracy. I completely agree! Just because actors and actresses are made visible in the media's eyes doesn't mean their private lives should be treated the same way. How awful! :(
Lady Manson: Buffy - i'm looking at youladymanson on June 15th, 2009 07:19 pm (UTC)
I know. I don't know what pushes people to say and do such horrible things. Why would you even bother? I wouldn't say that kind of crap to people I don't like in real life. Death is something you just don't mess with. Hurting someone more when someone they love dies is really terrible.
turquoisetumult: [Dollhouse] Dr. Saunders/Whiskeyturquoisetumult on June 15th, 2009 07:51 pm (UTC)
Agreed. No matter what the person did, it's beyond crude to use the death of their loved ones to insult them.

[your icon is totally appropriate here! :D]
Lady Manson: misc - gen ever so prettyladymanson on June 15th, 2009 08:43 pm (UTC)
your icon is totally appropriate here! :D
Thank you - I have never been able to use it before and found it appropriate. I actually made it for people who liked Genevieve to use in posts about her because so many people criticized her in the past year.
Jean: SPN: Jimmy: Looking Contemplative.contrary_lady on June 15th, 2009 04:14 pm (UTC)
Gosh, That's so sad! :(

Honestly, I try to reserve my cattiness for fictional characters. ;)
Lady Manson: spn - dean geekladymanson on June 15th, 2009 07:17 pm (UTC)
I love your ficticious character comment. It's so much more healthy, lol.
Jeancontrary_lady on June 17th, 2009 11:57 pm (UTC)
LOL, I'd rather save my bitchiness for folks who aren't even real. Then there's no hard feelings. ;)
Lisafailegaidin on June 15th, 2009 04:42 pm (UTC)
I agree with you that what that person did was downright awful, and that Dane had every right to be upset. But the guy gets some points for writing an apology. And Dane, in my opinion, loses a few for his response.
Lady Mansonladymanson on June 15th, 2009 07:15 pm (UTC)
I understand where you're coming from. I'm the sort of person where if someone insults me and later apologizes, I forgive them. But I've never been in the situation he was in. I can't imagine what it would be like to watch one, let alone both, of my parents suffer from cancer and die, especially so close together. That's hard enough. Having someone say that they died because of me would just be a great way to twist the sickness I would already be feeling from the experience. I feel that maybe he may have reacted differently had the guy simply apologized, but it didn't come until he was in the same experience. I wouldn't even consider it really an apology at that point. But that's me. We're all different when it comes to such bad things in life, which is why I can't judge him for what he did. It's probably not what I would have done, but again, I haven't been in such an awful situation.
sugarfreesugarfree03 on June 15th, 2009 05:57 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't blame him, either. I can't imagine what makes people such horrible things to each other.
it's almost like that man who wrote him those emails was punished for what he had done...
Lady Manson: twilight - redladymanson on June 15th, 2009 07:23 pm (UTC)
I thought about that too. I don't honestly consider his apology an actual apology. I would have felt it was an apology had he sent it in probably any other situation, but it actually took his father being terminal for him to apologize for something no human should ever say to another. I don't care who someone is. I wouldn't say that to people I know in my life that I cannot stand. If someone loses someone they love, they shouldn't have to deal with even more pain.
sugarfreesugarfree03 on June 15th, 2009 07:33 pm (UTC)
yes, exactly. I feel the same way about it. I mean, it's good when people acknowledge their mistakes and try to make amends; but in this case, I don't think his apology is worth anything.
Mimsy: STOCK. girl; a ribbon is something raredazzlebug on June 15th, 2009 06:31 pm (UTC)
At the comedic value of the joke, I laughed so hard that Coke came out of my nose when I was listening to my download version of ISolated INcident. Was it amazing to see him live? I hope to see him live one day.

You're totally right though, Tracy. Seriously, I don't blame him for answering the way he did either. I would have cheered him on, even, had I been in the room. You just... do NOT say things like that to people. The guy had lost both of his parents for Chrissakes, and some asshole thinks it's okay to say something like that?

No. Just no.
Lady Manson: misc - daneelladymanson on June 15th, 2009 07:05 pm (UTC)
It was fun seeing him live. I'm not sure what CD of his I have, but it is the one where he talks about having a monkey at home to 'battle'. I love that one - it's really funny. I thought his performance was pretty good. The stuff at the latter half of the show was better than the beginning. He also had two guys before him. I found the second guy to be hilarious, but the first guy was just okay. It was a really fun night though.

Yeah, before he told us this story, he told us that he was on the phone with his friend and told him that he was going to Google his name for the first time. His friend actually asked him, "Oh, do you want me to stay on the phone with you?" and he had no idea why he would ask him that. He really had no idea how hateful people online can be. It was really interesting hearing a person's feelings from that prespective.
Kerri: Dean - Rock onkaczurda on June 15th, 2009 10:54 pm (UTC)
Lol I saw that Dane Cook show! Whoever sent that e-mail was a total asshole, I don't blame Dane for responding like that either. People can be really low sometimes. >:(
Lady Mansonladymanson on June 16th, 2009 02:17 pm (UTC)
You saw it too? That's awesome! :-)
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Lady Manson: spn - crd sandyladymanson on June 16th, 2009 02:17 pm (UTC)
I knew you'd like that. :-)
Pageavenue57pageavenue57 on June 16th, 2009 01:45 am (UTC)
I loved Dane for that I saw him beginning of May and that end note made me happy
Lady Mansonladymanson on June 16th, 2009 02:18 pm (UTC)
That's cool that you got to see him too. :-)
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Lady Manson: twilight - edward stop staringladymanson on June 16th, 2009 02:19 pm (UTC)
You and me both.
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Lady Manson: twilight - sr55ladymanson on June 17th, 2009 12:55 am (UTC)
Well, that's good. :-) Glad to be of help.
winchesterwomanwinchesterwoman on June 17th, 2009 12:30 am (UTC)
Anything that you can say to some in a bad way the other person won´t react as if nothing had happened. Even if that person is a star it does not means that they are blinded to feel bad for something that other people tell them. For that, they are in drugs and sex because it is a way to forget all those things that they get daily. And of course if i read something like that I would be terrible hungry and probably hit so hard that person. And well. I don´t blame his answer but is a weak answer is just an act of revange what the people use to fall when they get a punch in their back :O